Marriage – A Bowl Of Cherries Or A Rose Garden
Marriage has lots of meaning and symbolism, and everyone has his/her unique opinion and interpretation of it. In addition to your own opinion of what is the definition of marriage, you can check out the secular meaning of marriage , or a Biblical definition of marriage .
Our immediate family celebrated three wedding anniversaries this year: 35th for my husband and I, 5th for our daughter and son-in-law, and 1st for our son and daughter-in-law. Hence my thoughts about marriage…weddings…anniversaries.
Besides the above interpretations of marriage, here is my favorite take on the subject: “Marriage is like a Rose Garden”, it looks beautiful and enticing from afar, but it requires lots of TLC to keep it up. Just like a rose, it is sweet, exiting and beautiful, yet it has its share of thorns. If you learn how to tend that garden together, you will enjoy the fruits of your labor. This is not an easy task by any means, especially in today’s world where both spouses have their own professional responsibilities, in addition to their family life together. It requires lots of understanding, support, and excellent communication skills. Some people are able to work through their rough terrains, others give up easily, and then there are those with irreconcilable differences, which even professionals are unable to resolve successfully.
Someone forwarded me a link to a very nice article (click here) about this very strong minded wife who used a very unique approach to save her marriage, when her husband of many years, expressed his feelings for her: “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did”. She was not ready or willing to accept his statement, or “throw in the towel” as one would say, but had her own idea of truly testing it out.
After I read this article, I was so amazed by her courage, her faith in her husband (since she obviously knew him better than he knew himself), and her determination, I was inspired to write this post to share her story with you. I think it was a big gamble on her part, but I guess she felt very confident about her decision, and at the end it worked out to their advantage.
This of course does not mean that it will work for everyone, or even would have worked out for her, had there been other variables involved in this scenario (infidelity, physical/mental abuse, etc). I don’t think most of us could be this strong and patient, to implement such approach. But if anyone knows their spouse this well, and feels it is only a phase they are going through, it would not hurt to give it a try. After all, there will be nothing to lose, and perhaps everything to gain.
I would like to hear your comments.